Every day should be a woman’s day. Women are the true meaning of strength, perseverance, and resilience. But unfortunately, for many years, women were meant not to be seen and never heard. We were allowed to have opinions or thoughts about anything, but today’s women, it’s all about independence being fierce, being your boss, and writing your own rules. Women are no longer just lying down and caring for it for what it is. They’re making things happen for themselves; most importantly, we finally found voices. We have no fear of speaking up for ourselves and making our presence is known anywhere we go, and we can do and be anything we want without a man by our side. Women are powerful. Women are intelligent. Women are sexy. Women on nurtures. Women or mothers. Women or wives, but most importantly, we on our own abilities to be independent women.
THE OLD SAYING HAS ALWAYS BEEN IT’S NEVER TOO LATE TO DO ANYTHING WE WANT TO DO IN LIFE AS LONG AS WE HAVE THE DRIVE TO SEE IT THROUGH.
WHAT I’M ASKING IS, DOES THE SAME RULE APPLY WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE?
I’m STRONG, BELIEVE IN WRITING MY OWN RULES WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE WHAT MIGHT WORK FOR ME AND MY PERSON MIGHT NOT WORK FOR OTHERS.
NOT TWO PEOPLE ARE THE SAME, SO NOTHING IN LIFE SHOULD BE APPROACHED THE SAME WAY FOR THOSE TWO PEOPLE.
IF WE CAN SET OUR OWN RULES, WE CAN LEARN SO MUCH ABOUT OURSELVES AS INDIVIDUALS, AND IT CAN HELP US FIGURE OUT WHO WE ARE AS A COUPLE.
MOST IMPORTANTLY, IT WILL HELP US FIGURE OUT WHAT WE WANT FROM EACH OTHER AS A COUPLE.
My wheelchair is a part of my everyday life. But, unfortunately, it isn’t my whole life.
First and foremost, I am a woman, and sadly, the world won’t see that first.
I’m not going to apologize for my disability ever. But, unfortunately, my disability will be a big red stop sign for some people to get to know my abilities and my Non-abilities just because it is easier than trying to get past that sign.
I’m not going to lie and be like I’ve never been down on myself because of the things that I feel I missed out on because I understand that I have physical limitations.
That other might not have, but that same limitation that I have pushed me forward to keep fighting and to keep needing and desiring and wanting, just like Any woman in the world.
Please my mind Please my soul Please my heart And then you can please my body with the connection like no other of two souls becoming one. A link that no man or woman is strong enough to break because it’s a connection you and I only share. No one will ever know or understand our inside jokes, And most importantly, no one will know your deepest secret.
Suppose I ever lose you for whatever reason, whether it’s my fault or just life happening.
In that case, I’ll be losing my dear diary, the one that holds me and doesn’t let go, the one who understands without judgment, the one that’s not afraid to tell me the truth when I need to hear it and even then when I don’t need to listen to it as well.
So thank you for giving me time to discover who I am and what I want to be as long as I continue on this earth with you, and as I continue on this earth with you, all I know is I want to continue being a better me. Ms. Butterfly Genesis
Words only become powerful when we, as people, give them.
As people, we have to know that we are the ones that decide how much power we give each word that we speak into existence.
We also determine if we will provide these words with positive or negative emotions and why we must think before we go off like a crazy person with no type of brain cell.
Throughout my life, words have had many ways to hurt because I have let others’ opinions hold me down.
In the same way, people have hurt me with hurtful words. I have hurt many people with unthoughtful words and unwanted actions that follow my words. I have to understand that no amount of apologizing I might bring myself to do will erase the effects of the words I use to break them down to make myself feel better.
Sometimes we say hurtful things so others may feel our pain. In reality, we need to stop hurting others because we have hurt ourselves to stop the circle of pain.
I am single. I’m unavailable to the world because I am getting to know who I am without the definition of someone else.
I’m Single because I need to put myself back together to be whole for myself.
I’m single because I want to see what someone can bring to the table before I leave my card out on the table. It’s no longer going to be 50-50. It’s going to be 100, 100. We should both give the best of each other to each other.
I am single because I choose to be alone. Everyone’s always afraid to be alone, and I’m not because being alone has allowed me to see what type of woman I am and what I’m capable of when I don’t have somebody holding me down.
Single life can be the best time in anyone’s life because this is the one time we get to Discover. Who we are. and the things that we want for ourselves? Before we commit ourselves to someone who truly has no idea of what we want or what we are looking for because we have not even taken the time to figure out what we want or what we’re looking for when it comes to a partnership.
I want to believe that I’m using this time wisely, and what I mean by that is I am in a place where I can say I’m strong like myself every day. I discover something new about myself every day; I challenge myself by doing something different or being more open-minded about certain things that I would never be open-minded about.
One of the most important things I’m learning about myself through this self-discovery is that I’m more than capable of taking care of myself. As I said, I might not be a millionaire, but I can manage myself and manage whatever comes my way because I am strong, I am wise beyond my years, and it’s OK not to have an OK when I feel like the world is caving in on me.
As long as I’m strong enough to come back and face the world in the world is ready for me, I’m good to go. I never knew how strong I was until I had to be. If it wasn’t for my faith-testing me every day and showing me that I could get through anything as long as I believed and put my trust in him.
Thank you for testing my faith and giving me my confidence in myself, and then you support me through anything that seems like the impossible thing to get through.
Try me in any way, and you’re going to find out who I am and what I’m capable of.
Box me inside a box because I’m different, and Society doesn’t accept those who are different. So I will break through the chest and show Society who I am as a person. But, unfortunately, if I try to explain to Society who I am rather than showing them who I am, they always try to keep me in that box of unwanted things or necessary things to look at.
I am someone who wants to be wanted, and it is necessary to look at it because I feel you can learn so much from me about what my life has been like. One of the most important things that I want Society to know about someone like me is that the word no does not mean much to me; it just pushes me more challenging to
what I want, how I want, and when I want to do it.
It’s crazy that I know who I should be to everyone else in my life.
I should be perfect for making up that I am not physically perfect to the rest of the world.
When it comes to who I should be to myself, I’m clueless because I’ve been so many things for so many people for so many years.
After all, I am a major people pleaser. But, I’m slowly walking into who I should be for myself, and the main thing I should manifest for myself is happy with myself.
My other manifestation for myself should be having my voice and not giving a fuck about what anybody thinks about me, all the things I have to say simply because no one lives in my skin.
Dear self you’re so good at giving everyone advice, but I don’t understand why it isn’t easy to take your advice.
You know how to uplift the world with all your positive thinking positive words, but who is there to inspire you when you need uplifting no one because you make it seem like you have all together on the outside but, you know, on the inside, you live in a hot mess.
Don’t be afraid to show yourself the same tough love that you give to everyone that comes to you with the need of Tough love. But, if you’re going to be a preacher about self-love and tough -love, you have to be able to do it for yourself.
Figure out why you cannot love yourself the way you show the world that you love yourself; what is it about yourself that you believe you’re not worthy of love yourself. Of course, you are worthy of loving yourself, but you have to figure that out for yourself; no one can tell you or show you how to love you as well it’s a process that you have to figure out for yourself and do for yourself.
I guess it’s true what they say I deafly have to fake it before I can make it, so I still have to show that I’m strong and that I love myself until I finally get to the point where I can honestly be honest with myself and say that I love myself.
Loving myself is letting go of all the negativity that holds me back from loving myself honestly the way I deserve to be loved and understanding that I can’t find true love in anyone else but myself.
I should not be just an option. I should be that first choice. I should be your first thought in the morning. I should add to your last thought of the day. I should see the reason why you decide to smile when you do smile. I should be the reason why you feel complete as a person. I should be the reason you understand the true meaning of love.
I should be for you all the things I should be for myself before I ask you to be any of those things for me.
Don’t judge. Don’t point. Don’t speak. The only time people should speak on anything that has nothing to do with them is because either they have walked a mile in your shoes before, and they are coming from the best place in their heart to warn people from going through what they have gotten through themselves.
We are not living in a country where we should tear each other apart; we should be together as a unit to make this country safe once again and people to start trust each other again. But, no, we are busy tearing each other apart because we have nothing else better to do in this challenging time that our country is under.
Speak only when spoken to and the truth; people don’t have to assume what others have heard. Even if what people heard is right, they should not be the ones to put it out there, so others have a chance to pass judgment. The only one that can influence decisions who knows the truth is God himself.
She is not hiding. She is not being manipulated. Her truth is simple She doesn’t want to be judged by anyone but the higher power, which is God, because he sees everything from where he is, and he is the only one with authority to judge.
People hide when they areashamed of something that has gone wrong in their lives, and many things have gone wrong in her life, but she has always faced them head-on and headstrong because She is not ashamed regardless of what people might say behind her back.
I have many walls that stop people from getting to know me or how I am feeling. Breaking down these walls means letting go of all the negative things that have held me back from moving forward like I know I should be doing. Letting go of things that have always been with me is scary to let go simply because I don’t know if I will stop myself after opening the door to my closet. Breaking down these walls always seemed impossible because I have never felt ready to deal with my past because I have a hurtful past, and to face that has brought me much pain and is like asking for a slow death. Breaking down these walls is like stripping myself naked and allowing my soul to show so everyone can see what I have been holding in for so many years, and by doing that, people might understand why I have never felt like I belong to anyone in my life. I‘m scared to strip myself naked with no walls to hide behind, so I can feel safe and protect myself from other things that might hurt me or hurt my soul. Breaking down these walls would mean leaving me open to feeling the pain that I have been able to lock away for so long just because I never felt like I had to deal with the hurt or the problem. Leaving myself stripped away might bring my death simply because it is too much pain for me to handle. Ms. Butterfly Genesis 🇩🇴
I have so much stuff on my mind; I am surprised that I have not ended up in the crazy house with the rest of the stupid people.
I know being a part of this world, I can’t be everything to everyone. So all I can try to do is be that support system I did not have while growing up.
How can I be wrong for trying to be someone’s supports system? What’s crazy to me is they cannot see the same blood running through me is running through them, and before jumping down my throat, please realize my blood runs through you too.
Friends and relationships come and go, but family is the only thing that will forever have your back for the rest of your life.
I know I should be the last to speak about guys coming and going, but I learned my family will always be there. Once I chose my husband over the people I could count on, I was sure that he was still there for me.
So I thought I would never need them because I had him, or at least I thought I did.
So I understand how you feel; trust me, I’ve been there.
That is the only reason I don’t want you to go down the same road as me because that road is lonely and dark.
I also know that you need to fall before walking straight into life and growing as a person. Ms. Butterfly Genesis 🇩🇴
Humble Humility Gratitude Unconditional Love Unselfish putting my needs before her own. Having the feeling like superwoman, even if that means dragging herself to care for me when I understand that she should not be caring for me anymore, I should be making sure that she is being taken care of as the queen that she is. I know that she has always tried to show me that no matter what, she would always be my #1, but I never truly understood that until our relationship of her being my caregiver completely changed.
We always struggled to have that mother-daughter relationship. I have always felt like my mom has never seen me as me. My mother instead continues to see me as her disabled daughter. She is on this earth to protect. So I struggled to understand that she is a mom who wants more for her offspring than she could have, had for herself as a mom.
When we decide to make changes in our lives, we have to make sure we are doing it for the right reason, but most importantly, we are doing it for ourselves.
The change should only happen when we need to improve ourselves or see something we might not like ourselves.
We should never change who we are to fit someone’s mounding of who we should be for them. Compromising is a give-and-take situation.
If anyone has to change who they are, then the person they begin to love is not who indeed are, and if anyone is going to love me, they will need to love me for me and all my flaws.
When people can love me for who I am, that’s real love because love is unconditional love.
My heart hurts always, and the sad part is no one realizes it.
I want to stop mistreating. But I need to stop hurting most of all.
There are so many things causing me pain right now. It’s hard to pinpoint which one is causing me more pain. Is it the fact that he is no longer a part of my life?
Is it that I feel imprisoned in myself, and I am desperate to find a way out of myself?
I need to get out of my way to accept my wrongs before I can make them right.
I would love to believe that the only thing I have ever done wrong is love people that have no clue how to love me back or that I love way too hard.
Right now, it might just be all in my head, but I believe people believe the worst when I have a gold heart. But, still, it’s complex or challenging for anyone to see that because of all the pain that I’ve caused people around me and the fact that people don’t have a problem understanding me like crazy.
I can’t blame them because that’s the only thing that I have shown people. After all, I’ve so many times it’s so much easier for me to show them that other side of me. Instead of showing them that woman with a heart of gold.
I love someone no one will ever approve of or want around, and I’m OK with that because it is my choice to live my life.
They are far from perfect and very strong-tempered. But they don’t give a fuck what the world thinks of them or even what I think of them either. I sometimes wish people could see past their macho attitude and realize they are very passionate, loving sexual beings, making it very difficult for anyone not to share their lives with them. They might not be as forgiving as I would like them to be, but they give themselves to whoever needs them with no questions asked.
The Memoir Of Ms. Butterfly 